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Coming Out to Your Adult Children: A Guide to Preparing Yourself

If you’re reading this, you are likely standing at a significant threshold in your life. The decision to share a more authentic part of yourself with your adult children is profound. It’s a moment often filled with a complex mix of fear, hope, relief, and a deep desire for connection. In my practice as a … Read More

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A Different Kind of Divorce: Navigating Life After Coming Out of a Straight Marriage

There’s a quiet moment that often follows the seismic shift of coming out later in life, especially after a long-term heterosexual marriage. The big conversations have been had, the practicalities of separation are underway, and you find yourself in a new, unfamiliar space. It’s a space that can hold two profound, seemingly contradictory feelings at … Read More

A person, presumed to be a man, has his elbows on a table that has an open laptop on it. In his hands he's holding a smartphone, that is on but the screen is difficult to see. The man is wearing a pink shirt with sleeves rolled up. We see only the child of the man, which is stubbly. The text reads "A realistic guide to gay daring apps for men over 40"

Beyond the Grid: A Realistic Guide to Gay Dating Apps for Men Over 40

You open the app. That familiar grid of faces appears. For a moment, there’s a flicker of hope – a new message and the possibility of connection, a fun chat, a date, maybe even something more. But it’s often followed by a familiar, sinking feeling. The endless swiping, the conversations that go nowhere, the profiles … Read More

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Undoing the Damage: A Practical Guide to Healing from Internalised Homophobia for Gay Men Over 40

Do you ever find yourself hesitating to mention your partner in a new group of colleagues? Or perhaps you feel a sudden, sharp flash of discomfort seeing a gay couple hold hands in public, even though a part of you wishes you could do the same without a second thought? You might even find yourself … Read More

What is minority stress theory?

Have you ever heard of minority stress theory? In this blog, I’ll take a look at what minority stress theory is, its origins, and how it impacts the mental and emotional well-being of people from minority groups. Understanding Minority Stress Theory Minority stress theory—what does this term mean? In simple terms, this theory suggests that … Read More